Have you noticed how some folks tend to romanticize relationship conflict? We teach each other that for relationships to be worth having, to be strong or to last, there must be strife and struggle. We have fallen in love with the idea of being “a ride or die”. Even if doing so usually means sacrificing yourself for your partners benefit.
This really is our way of rationalizing a toxic relationship, that needs to end. But we won’t because doing so could possibly result in feelings of abandonment, guilt, or shame. Why must you sacrifice yourself to be loved?
Without considering what society says you should have, ask yourself, what do I want? Because what YOU want is what matters.
~Noni Ayana, M.Ed. Sexologist, Principal Consultant, and Founder of ERISLLC.ORG, Online consultations exploring relationships, intimacy, and sexuality.