Gender roles are continuously evolving, and for many traditional men (and women), this is a very confusing time. There was a time when gender roles were very clear and mostly based upon religious or biblical principles. Although many ancient traditions and religious principles’ have remain unchanged, modern society has shown to create its own standards for living. Due to this shift and the growing responsibilities women have obtained, increased rights and opportunities have empowered women to exhibit strengths typically not excepted in a male dominated world. Not only is masculinity being tested, femininity is being re-defined. Strength was and still is typically synonymous with masculinity. Femininity is typically synonymous with (as dictionary.com defines) delicacy, docility, gentleness, softness, womanhood, etc.
A strong woman seems to be able to handle anything, and if she is seen just as capable as a man, how is a man to treat her in regards to affection? Men are subliminally taught that anger is a manly trait. A man crying is considered weak. Crying is more so a feminine behavior. Interestingly there are women whom have adopted this same belief. They too are reluctant to cry, as to not to exhibit weakness. This is also why many people do not seek professional counseling because of the stigma of powerlessness, or weakness.
FYI, most if not all cannot handle life alone. At some point in your life you will need the assistance, the help, or the connection of another human being. Strong women can be fierce but she is still human. Whether she wants to hide behind the strong woman façade or she is willing to face the reality that she wants to be held, hugged, caressed, and adored, because after all she is still a woman. Inside the strong woman, lies a little girl desiring to feel love from the leading man in her life. A woman’s strength should not intimidate a man; he should feel even more inclined to engage her strength with his own. If a man does not realize his own strength he will not be able to engage her effectively.
Even in sex, a woman wants to feel you are paying attention, you know what she desires and you are not afraid to please her. Your masculinity is not threatened by her strong femininity. Real intercourse; communication between individuals, an interchange of thoughts and feelings.
Tell her you love her, how you appreciate her. Allow her to live her life at her fullest potential without showing discontent or resentment. Do we not appreciate the essence of the flower when it is in full bloom?