Strong Women Need Love Too

_MG_8479___-3 Gender roles are continuously evolving, and for many traditional men (and women), this is a very confusing time. There was a time when gender roles were very clear and mostly based upon religious or biblical principles. Although many ancient traditions and religious principles’ have remain unchanged, modern society has shown to create its own standards for living. Due to this shift and the growing responsibilities women have obtained, increased rights and opportunities have empowered women to exhibit strengths typically not excepted in a male dominated world. Not only is masculinity being tested, femininity is being re-defined. Strength was and still is typically synonymous with masculinity. Femininity is typically synonymous with (as dictionary.com defines) delicacy, docility, gentleness, softness, womanhood, etc.

A strong woman seems to be able to handle anything, and if she is seen just as capable as a man, how is a man to treat her in regards to affection? Men are subliminally taught that anger is a manly trait. A man crying is considered weak. Crying is more so a feminine behavior. Interestingly there are women whom have adopted this same belief. They too are reluctant to cry, as to not to exhibit weakness. This is also why many people do not seek professional counseling because of the stigma of powerlessness, or weakness.

FYI, most if not all cannot handle life alone. At some point in your life you will need the assistance, the help, or the connection of another human being. Strong women can be fierce but she is still human. Whether she wants to hide behind the strong woman façade or she is willing to face the reality that she wants to be held, hugged, caressed, and adored, because after all she is still a woman. Inside the strong woman, lies a little girl desiring to feel love from the leading man in her life. A woman’s strength should not intimidate a man; he should feel even more inclined to engage her strength with his own. If a man does not realize his own strength he will not be able to engage her effectively.

Even in sex, a woman wants to feel you are paying attention, you know what she desires and you are not afraid to please her. Your masculinity is not threatened by her strong femininity. Real intercourse; communication between individuals, an interchange of thoughts and feelings.

Tell her you love her, how you appreciate her. Allow her to live her life at her fullest potential without showing discontent or resentment. Do we not appreciate the essence of the flower when it is in full bloom?

-Noni Ayana

4 thoughts

  1. I like a strong mostly independent woman. And when we are dating she needs to stay that way In some aspects. It can no longer be me/you. It needs to be US. Do you if we are not living together. And do us when we spend time with each other. Help planning things for us. Give the same I give into the relationship. Real 100%, give 100%, love 100%.. I will give unto you the same. All of the time. God, kids(family), job. Date until you are ready to be family. Then you will be apart of areal thing.

  2. I like a strong mostly independent woman. And when we are dating she needs to stay that way I some aspects. It can no longer be me/you. It needs to be US. Do you if we are not living together. And do us when we spend time with each other. Help planning things for us. Give the same I give into the relationship. Real 100%, give 100%, love 100%.. I will give unto you the same. All of the time. God, kids(family), job. Date until you are ready to be family. Then you will be apart of areal thing.

  3. I’ve battled this all my life. Men usually desire to be with me but find it hard to see where they fit it. I love being loved and in a relationship but it is hard to find a man that understands ALL of me!

    • I totally understand. Men that are self confident with a higher self image (not arrogance) and often seeing themselves as adding value are likely to communicate effectively with a “strong” woman and not see her as a threat. Strength doesn’t necessarily mean unfeeling or unloving. It’s also about perception and how some women of certain ethnic groups and cultures are viewed. For example, Black women are often seen as wanting sex, not non-sexual intimacy or affection. Not being seen as gentle or docile, but strong and crude. Therefore some men will treat her accordingly, or not know at all how to approach her. Men (as we all are in some way) are trained in which his responce is specific to the type of woman.

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