Women have been fooled into believing there are no “good men” available to date and/or marry. We must realize the world is bigger than the city we live in, the restaurants and clubs we patron, the church we attend, and the office where we work. Good men are everywhere! However, the term “good man” is relative. A good man to me may not be a good man to you. What is a good man? How many stories have we heard of women being physically abused, yet she continued to claim he was a good man. Her idea of a good man, his “potential” is what kept her in the abusive relationship. Holding on to the thought of how good a man he could be if he just…
Maybe, just maybe, we’d have more available good men, if we had more women with standards. Are women not as selective as men these days? I find men to be very specific about what they want. Whether looking for sex or a wife. In many major cities, women outnumber men, causing fierce competition among women. Why have standards if the next woman can have him just as easily as I can? So we do away with standards such as making him wait for sex. We allow men to move in after knowing him for days. We buy him clothes, jewelry, and cars, without him having contributed at all. We are okay with him being inconsiderate of our time and our space, because “good men” are hard to find. The sacrifice women make to avoid being lonely.
Time to question yourself and be honest with your answers:
Is he good for me? Does he fit into my life, my plan? When I am with him do I feel as though my life has improved or has satisfaction with life declined? Am I really content or am I in a constant state of hoping he will change?
Does a good man have a job, a car, and money in his savings? Is that what it takes to be labeled as a good man? Are good men in jail? Do good men cheat? Do good men kill? Do good men abuse women and children? Do good men rape? At some point in his life somebody thought he was or still thinks he is a good man.
What is a good man for you? We must look beyond the surface and see a man for what he really is and base your decision on what he is, not on what he could be. If you needed emergency surgery, would you rather have someone who dreams of being a surgeon or someone whom practices as a surgeon?